I have always been confused on one topic, what kind of social person am I? Sometimes I was a talkative person in my friend group and other times I was the quiet kid in class. There were definitely moments where I had slipped into being one side more. As the environment I’m in changes, I go with it.
First I have to redefine being an introvert or extrovert? When I am being my introvert kind of person. The space tends to be quiet and I tend to think over my thoughts too much. Overthinker is just a good word to describe being an introvert. Anytime you are in your own thoughts and you feel comfortable being alone in a quiet place.
In an article called “You Can Learn to Love Being Alone,” Shannon Doyne from the New York Times describes how identifying and processing situations when we are alone is not an easy thing to do. However, It helps us develop those independent decision-making skills. When people are alone and are processing their thoughts it is a sign that a person knows how to use their day to the fullest, making every second count.
When I’m being an extrovert with my friends, I also feel totally comfortable being myself. I get to be overly goofy, blurting out random and funny words.
But on the other hand, most of my afternoons are filled up with listening to my music at home with no one around. Just me living in my room like a bat with the lights off trying not to procrastinate on my homework yet again. Do I just feel comfortable living like that or is this my way of getting energy?
In my opinion, there can be two ways of thinking about your personality. One, what category do you place yourself into? As you are the one who experiences the most of what you like to do. Another way to think about it is having a friend who hangs around with me who might have a different idea of what kind of person I am.
Based on all of these observations, I believe that I fall into that category of being an ambivert. An ambivert is defined as a person with both introvert qualities and extrovert.
As some people might say, “I can change my personality depending on who is with me.” saying this might just mean you’re a mixture of two things. It comes from the freedom to label yourself with whatever you feel is most right. A few weeks earlier in a Spanish class, Profe Downing brought up the topic of code changing. This means in some words the ability to change your actions or humor depending on the environment around you.
I am a person that does this quite frequently on my own. Early in the morning, I might be very excited about practice or totally exhausted from having no sleep at all. I am a very indecisive person and have had so many different experiences trying to get my social life to a point where I feel the happiest and most comfortable. Let’s just say that this will be something I will have to keep working on in the future. That a new experience comes around every time and a new and different person comes into my life. With just a few years of high school left, I can’t wait for a college social adventure and more to come.